Dec 13, 2021Member-onlyStop Talking Yourself Out of ItYou’re more capable than you (and your enemies) think — Seven months ago, I had the most dangerous thought an enby with a ukulele can have: “Nobody can physically stop me from writing a concept album about anything I want.” It was an extremely uncharacteristic thought for me. Not because it was a dangerous thought — I have tons of…Creativity4 min readCreativity4 min read
May 16, 2021On the Death of the RingmasterWe are all the circus and the circus must go on — Friends, mourners, Infernites, lend me your ears; I come to praise the scene, not bury it. …Music2 min readMusic2 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·Sep 27, 2020Member-onlyButterflies in the BedroomA poem for Emma and her Night Visitor — I will love you no matter how many butterflies are in the bedroom, no matter how many spectral songs you hum, no matter how many times the soft fingers of the night reach into your brain to pluck out the void devouring it. I will love you no matter how…Poetry1 min readPoetry1 min read
Published inThink Queerly·Mar 15, 2020Member-onlyHere Comes the Gride: 5 Things I’ve Learned Planning a Queer Nonbinary WeddingThis would be easier if “bridegroom” wasn’t taken — As any nonbinary person will tell you, living outside the strict definitions of “male” and “female” isn’t easy. And as any survivor of a self-planned wedding will tell you, neither is planning your wedding day. …LGBTQ5 min readLGBTQ5 min read
Jan 13, 2020Member-onlyWhy I Won’t Stop Writing Trans ArticlesI do it for him, and I’ll do it again — If you want to know the truth about why I keep writing about trans and nonbinary things, it’s because I’m trying to save a man who’s already dead. Let me back up. I’ve been getting some angry comments on my pieces in the past few months, both on Medium and…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·Nov 25, 2019Member-onlyCatsgiving: A Good Deed Gone WrongYou can’t always make everyone happy. But try anyway. — The day before Thanksgiving three years ago, my mother and I had an argument over whether I could spend the early part of the holiday driving someone else’s cat halfway across the state. I assured her that I’d be back in time for dinner, but she insisted that was impossible…This Happened To Me6 min readThis Happened To Me6 min read
Published inGender From The Trenches·Oct 28, 2019Member-onlyHow Not To Talk About Your Trans FriendsTrans pro-tips for cis people — Last month I accompanied my fiancée Emma to her good friend’s wedding, and before we continue I want to make it clear that said friend and most of the other guests were absolutely wonderful to both of us, greeting us with a lot of smiles and compliments. That said, there…Transgender5 min readTransgender5 min read
Published inJournal of Journeys·Oct 1, 2019Member-onlySometimes, You Pretend Your Rape is a Funny StoryBecause it isn’t rape when it happens to you, right? — TW: Rape Sometimes, you say nothing. You know you should speak. You know that it’s better to say something, anything, even if it isn’t “no.” But you don’t. Why bother? You can’t talk with your mouth full. You know you should push away — you want to push away —…Rape5 min readRape5 min read
Published inThe Startup·Sep 25, 2019Member-onlyWhy I Wrote a Genderfluid FAQAnd why its popularity terrified me — The weekend before they were due to leave on an epic road trip along all of Route 66, I went to visit my parents. As I sat down on their couch, my eyes settled on a few papers on my TV tray: printouts of my “What the Heck is Genderfluid?”…Life4 min readLife4 min read
Published inThink Queerly·Sep 10, 2019Member-onlyThe Cute Enby Squad ManifestoSeize a life of radical cuteness — Though not all nonbinary people choose to call themselves “enbies,” many of us do, and that is valid. And enbies like me have been seeing nonbinary people represented in the mainstream culture more and more. However, the cis mainstream definition of nonbinary appears to be very narrow in scope. To…Transgender2 min readTransgender2 min read
